Communication
Have you ask what does it mean to communicate? What is communication? Isn’t it the quality of sharing together? It is to come together and share. Together… To Commune. Now, what implies in this? Should there be vanity? Should be an ego in communication? Is there a place for vanity and egotism? No, because communication will have never taken place. Instead, argument would have taken place, which is violent, barbaric, callous, and indifference. Vanity creates conflict that takes form in argumentation. Communication requires compassion, sensitivity, and humility/integrity. Do you see how dangerous vanity is in communication?
Is there division and isolation in communication? No. Communication is the opposite movement. Communication is not dividing.. It is uniting. Do you see this?
So, why do we divide and isolate? Is it because of pleasure of vanity? Is it because we are attached to opinions? Opinions are variations of the truth and facts. These variations are seen as abstractions and distortions as well. Opinions are built from bias and prejudice of one’s knowledge. Opinions then stem from vanity. Opinion is vanity. Now, what is opinion that is not vain? It is no longer opinion. Instead, they are referred to as suggestions which are based on humility, not vanity. What is humility? Isn’t humility the understanding of the danger of vanity? Isn’t humility the understanding that one’s mind is falsifiable? The humble mind is open and learning mind. The humble sees opportunity to inquire and learn. But, there is vanity in that movement. The learning is toward oneself. This is a totally different attitude isn’t it? What happens when a person is vain, there is callousness, lack of learning, lack of listening. Listening requires humility to be pure. Vanity brings distortion and abstraction to what is being shared. Humility then is to listen and inquire. To inquire not solely on one’s knowledge but to go beyond one’s knowledge, this is called doubting one’s knowledge.
Humility is to share but not cherish. Vanity is to share and to cherish. The difference is of compassion and sensitivity. Can a person share without cherishing? If vanity is the assertion of self-importance, humility must be the stance that self-importance doesn’t need to be asserted. Humility is the attitude that self-importance is self-evident; there is no need to assert. To assert implies you lack self-importance. Vanity is always accompanied with self-image, which is based off the past. Does this image have any place in communication? If one cherishes one’s self-image (egotistical), what happens to communication? Doesn’t it end because the togetherness ended with the isolating and dividing activity of egotism?
Communication is difficult because of the impeding noise from the mind. Communication then is of silence. Silence is unifying in nature. Noise, which is of the verbalization of the mind, abstracts and distorts communication.
Communication is of having no set conclusions, preconceptions, prejudice and bias. Communication is an investigation of what Is together. The Actuality. The Fact.
Relationship
What does it mean to relate? Isn’t it commonality? To share with? Relationship is the state of relating. Now, don’t all share a common heritage? A common movement? A common behavior? From all the variations, don’t we all share the same roots? Aren’t we all fruits of the same tree? And all the trees from same ground? There is wide-spread relationship throughout the universe.
Relationship is the inter-connected of all things. Now, naturally, we are all in relationship with each other. What is it that break it? Or tries to break it? What is the division and isolation? Can we understand ourselves in withdrawal? No, there is always an relationship.
Relationship is a mirror. Sharing is a mirror. We learn about everything through relationship. Relationship is the ground we all share. Communication then starts from this rooted relationship. There are hindrances which is of thought. To be precise, the cultivation of image is the hindrance.
You have relationship with a friend. Now, do communicate with this friend based on an image you have created of him/her. Do you interact with this friend based on the image you built? The image is the past. Are you assuming your friend is the image you built? What happens when you friend changes? What does change happen to the image? It renders it futile. In relationship, the concept/image that is created of the other is hindrance because the image distort the actuality of that moment.. or the actuality of the thing/person.
In-order to understand anger, one must have relationship with it. Can one inquire into anger by the image one has built up around it? No for that is bias and prejudice. One needs to look at it as it stands. Bare in mind, it is inquiry is indirect because what is being inquired is of the inquirer. Relationship is the basis of all inquiries.
The image that I create of whatever it may be is a distortion, because the past is the past. What is happening now is completely new. Relationship stale and spoil when images are involved. Relationships are living things because they consist of living things. Whatever that is living is subject to change. Change is essential to live… Without change, there is death.
Relationship is the mirror in which we learn of ourselves and everything else. Through this mirror, the very understanding is freedom. Life is full and whole when relationships are not broken by images, prejudice, bias, and other opinions.
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